“Success not final, failure is not fatal .It is the courage to continue that counts.”- Winston Churchill
We are still a beginner on our life journey.when it comes to success or failure.Success is something what you feel excitement about that I win. Atlast I win the game.But where Success comes from . Did u realize !Yes, success comes from failure.We generally say “Never Give Up! Never Give Up! But when we give up,what happens ? Life put a question mark in front of all and then a word ‘Failure “ comes in our mind ,which revolves around 24 hours as “I am a Failure”. Failure is alphabetic word ; i.e programmed in our mindset.
60% in ten says that they were able to bounce back quickly and 40% were encouraged to try again. Brain knows actually more than people consciously realize. Unfulfillment task in turn leads to frustrations which leads to Failure can be a devastating blow to our minds.
Through failure, fear comes naturally to our minds.Its like preoccupied version of self. When things do not go according to plan, they are better able to bounce back and try an alternative way of doing things. Deep inside there is conscious painful feelings that failure unconsciously gets linked which becomes our beliefs about ourselves. We Keep This in another way that failure reinforces our underlying belief and that we are not ready to accept it.But have no choice to accept. We feel as we are helpless, ashamed, and bad. Perception of failure forcefully believe that we are worthless or the raise voice is why we are born.Failure sometimes seems to us as blessings in disguise.
We have seen from past that many great people like steven Spielberg,Walt Disney,Michael Jordan,Dr.Abdul Kalam,Mahatma Gandhi ,Ratan Tata and many more have succeeded despite their odds life.Could you think of one oint why they fail? Do you want to know, why because they took failure as a challenges of life.You have given one life not to fail but to pass on this fail life. Life is hussle bussle , but you should not stop or keep a barrier in your mind .Rather find a solution for this. You fail but that doesn’t seems that life does not end. Still you have a life which has more and more task left to do.Feel heaven in your work.We are still a beginner on our life journey.
“Failure is seen as an opportunity to learn and grow,” says Los Angeles-based psychologist CrystalL.Lee
“Failure is an opportunity to be embraced, analyzed, and picked apart, rather than something to run away from.”
Atkinson's (1964)risk-taking model, also predict a negative effect of failure on future performances, It is argued that failure experiences will reduce outcome expectations.
- Trauma experienced in childhood feel very distress in later life. Childhood could be emotional, physical ,sexual feelings.
Procrastination- it is to keep delaying something that must be done, often because it is unpleasant or boring. Perfectionists are often procrastinators; as
Psychologically they never complete their task on time.so they automatically feel failurere regarding work
Experience a traumatic event :when someone experience a traumatic event in life ,they have nob sense of what they are doing in life as they are so shocked of what they have gone through in life which is very heartbreaking, feel like they themselves are no more.
Low self-esteem or self confidence – It’s a negative word that feel us low in whatever work we do.We here think as “We are not good at this work ,how can we do?or I cannot achieve this?But rather have confidence, we feel inferior to perform any task.We take life so seriously as rather think how to overcome we break ourselves.
Perfectionism – here person tries to focus on ideal circumstances to reach his expectations .But he forgot to see worst scenario and the accept inevitable failures.This is true on ones part that person only have best in life, but to have a succeesful life one should view on other side of a coin.
Failure often leads to negative impact on ones life, like negative thinking in his own life , and they perceive themselves as-----
Individuals who cannot come out of this depressive and distress life ,have no choices in life become vulnerable to many psychological disorders.like relationship issues, anxiety problems, phobias , low frustration or low tolerance, guilt and shame of oneself,obsessive-compulsive disorders.Persons perceive himself/herself hopelessness in life , passive reactions takes place, feeling incompetence in front of world.This is not the end of psychological disturbances but ones have feeling of criticism and disapproval of life.
Last but not least they have suicidal tendencies tend to exist.
Don’t cry and sit behind your presence . Move and make an effort atleast once in life. It’s miraculous that you will successed.
“Failure leads to overthinking and overthinking strangles dream.”
We live a life of so many years while demotivating ourselves . feel like cutting from own self , feel exhausted. Why? Just because of your own perception or way of thinking leaves you in vain.
Often , valuable insights come only after a failure . Accepting and learning from those insights is key to successding in life.Now no more---failure is a part of our life . We should enjoy life when we fail ,rather we go deep down within.
Believe in yourself ,nobody will move your inner strength. Show the world your views whether it is right or wrong .Show the world what you are .Come out of your presence. You are born different,nobody is like you,your soul is pure to undertand your self.
Key factors behind success
Both fears of failure go hand in hand.Many techniques like cognitive –behaviouralhelp to cope with failure circumstances.
Persistence-person view points should be optimistic,optimism should also be seen in action. When everybody says “Enough is Enough” and I don’t want to act, here persistence help them to move forward in life.Inspite of difficult situations person continue to perform his task well and put his opinions too.
Self-Determination- It has more relevant facts that it is psychological and personnel too ..It determine two ways of motivation ie ones intrinsic and extrinsic motivation.Intrinsic comes from internal beings like our core values ,our self interest and our reality.
Motivation Extrinsic motivation that come from admiration of others , awards, how others respect , others grading system.So all these motivation help ones personnel growth. Even as a child we never feel failure or heartbreaks , we always feel motivated to do something rather nothing.Its inner desire to go ahead in life or what motivates you to go forward , ones knows.
Visualization- it’s a great modality to see yourself powerful and to visualize how far he has gone and reach his purest fiorm of result which again rely on our mindset. Visualization help to motivate ones inner instinct or ones believe that our ichinen gets strong to achieve bigger aim of life.
Growth mindset-A growth mindset is done even at times of failure , our mindset should be such that we grow in life to reach the heights by controlling and coordinating our minds. We keep on trying and searching new things and go on repeating wrongs ,we never fail. A life we want to achieve ,be yours only by practice this cycle of mindset
Resilient individuals are said to bounce back from stressful experiences quickly and efficiently, just as resilient metals bend but do not break (Carver, 1998; Lazarus, 1993).
Children are far more risilient then parents realize. Resilient person whose confidence help them allow to perform on repeated failures can handle task easily. They do not make mistakes again and again.It also help in planning the future well .These people know that failure is not seem to be fall down rather than working out. Give them strength to get up ones again in life.
Taking one small step at a time will help build your confidence, keep you moving forward, and prevent you from getting overwhelmed with visions of your final goal.Don’t hit upon you if nothing going ,just stay ,relax your mind and keep yourself calm.
Think of a situation in that where you fail. Visualize yourself now that an obstacle stops you in the centre of your life ,then think, control your mind ,keep moving forward. Next, think of how you overcome this major obstacle in your life. Think of many ways to the first till the last stages of task till the time you reach your successful points.Success is on your way now . Failure is no longer now to be feared but believe you starting loving your life and live optimistically.you will reach your destination.yours viewpoint will save you from drowning .see how easy to push oneself in successful zone.
Fear of failure can have several causes from childhood stages that whenever we made mistakes till adult life , we still have choice to clear our mess.
Its never too late ,we have choice to choose to be afraid, or we can choose not to be.
It is only a Failure in life not a Failed Life !!!
Source: Payal Jawa, Our Budding Clinical Hypnotherapist